Gift to sis -
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Gift to sis -
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Almost everyone must be knowing right now -- well, people who keep a close tag of me anyway.
If you have noticed, I haven't talked about my married life of late. Reason being, I am on that 'singledom' path again. I avoided talking about it till now because I was hoping (till 2 months back) that things would get sorted out. But apparently it didn't, and I am thankful because I don't believe a woman has to sacrifice her self-respect, her identity or go begging to someone to save her marriage. My parents, my close friends, my near and dear ones are in fact quite relieved that I'm getting away from something that is not worth the intense pain that tagged along with it.
This might be too personal a topic to be included in a blog. But if I had taken the effort to include a "How I Met the Nair Boy", I should also include that life need not always be hunky dory for everyone. Many girls wrote to me saying that they started believing in the concept of arranged marriage from that very post. I dreaded to write this entry because of that very reason -- because I don't want these girls to lose trust in marriage. Another reason for writing this post might be to pave a clear path for my own future without feeling the need to hide anything. Probably if I get into another relationship, I want the guy to get the respect and love he deserves without me being vague about it.
I do not blame anyone for this, and I am not going to type down the reasons that lead to the termination of so sacred a relationship within a span of only one year. I and my family hardly talk about it nowadays because obviously we have more better and happier topics to discuss.
Thanksgiving day is already over, but I can't help but feel thankful to a couple of people who have been my life support. My family, my best friends, family friends, "A" (we are not on talking terms now, but I SO appreciate whatever you did for me during my initial separation phase), my close friends, people who extended their support unconditionally even if they didn't know me in person, and so many more people. Because of them I realize, even if I lost one, I gained much more over the past few months :) So a big THANK YOU and a warm hug to all of you...
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P.P.S - Ending on a positive note, I made a donation to WFP (United Nations World Food Programme) last month. It felt sooooo good! :) I urge you guys to make a small contribution in whatever way you can to help those less-fortunate people out there. A friend recommended two Indian organizations where you can help kids out (sponsor them) - worldvision.in and giveindia.org. As Carl Karcher would put it - "If the money we donate helps one child or can ease the pain of one parent, those funds are well spent."
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
- I "sponsored" a stay for my parents at one of the coolest hotels at Kochi last week. It feels SO good to pamper them, and pay for them after all the lavish spending they have done for me over the years. It means a lot to me, and by their happy looks I can assume it meant a lot to them too!
- Pranced around Oberon mall doing absolutely nothing but window shopping and *ahem* some sightseeing too ;)
- Caught up with a Malayalam movie "Indian Rupee" at Cinemax Kochi after a long time. A different movie. Me likey!
- Had steak with mushroom sauce for the first time. I've always wanted to try it (quite experimental with food), and last week I got the opportunity. Delish I tell you. Yummm!
- Spent a lot on new books -- marketing & business books *coughs*
- Savored the beauty of M.G. Road with gelatos, rolled parathas and other goodies in hand. How I love the rush, the crowd and the atmosphere in its entirety at Kochi even at 9 in the evening. Did I mention I love the food? ;)
- A nice bonding time with colleagues and friends. The time spent sharing corny jokes and laughing out loud all carefree -- priceless!
- A new phone -- I'm now a BlackBerry girl ;) And yeah, a LOT of messaging through the BlackBerry messenger nowadays.
- Some surprise gifts - giving & receiving has never been this much worthwhile!
- A new all-time high in my online marketing payout. Yeyy! Whereas my day job is getting more interesting by the day. *touch wood*
And yesterday, I got a wee bit emotional and shed a few happy tears because I was so grateful to God for showing me this phase in life where I feel SO SO happy and back-to-life all thanks to the absolutely beautiful people in my life. Everything seems to be going perfectly. He brings the right kind of people at the right time at the right place to show you the way if you're lost. When you're down and out and if you're sincere, He WILL put that smile back on your face. And guess what? I'm smillllllinnnnggggggg... out wide ! :)
Happy Diwali all of you. Stay safe and stay happy :)
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
"Now I am an orphan"
"What are you talking about?" - I asked concerned.
Mom - "I don't have a mom or a dad now. That makes me an orphan right?"
Me - "Hmmm. But why sad? I will adopt you! And dad too! Both of you!"
Mom (looking very pleased now) - "So that will make you my Dhanyamma!"
Me (smiling) - "Yes totally!"
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Monday, August 22, 2011
Anyhoo, I'm all for India's stand against corruption and I am all for the Jan Lok Pal bill proposed by our civil society. But the skeptic in me can't help wondering if this new system will help in eradicating even half of the corruption in our country. In case you didn't know, there is already an act (The Prevention of Corruption Act, 1988) which does more or less of the same thing - combat corruption. It is a very stringent law which (but obviously) has failed to totally curb corruption - something which the Lokpal bill promises on doing. Will the Jan Lok Pal bill once passed be as ineffective as our current laws as time moves on? Corruption in India exists at so many levels that I somehow find it almost impossible to believe that the Lokpal and each state-based Lokyukta will be completely corruption-free. In the bill's draft it's mentioned - "The entire functioning of Lokpal/ Lokayukta will be completely transparent. Any complaint against any officer of Lokpal shall be investigated and the officer dismissed within two months." - now what if the officer claims that he's innocent? What if these "investigators" are corrupt and claim the person is innocent too?
She has single-handedly reformed Tihar Jail and because of this very effort, Tihar jail (or Ashram, whichever way you choose to call it) was able to yield an inmate who passed the Indian administrative civil service examinations! Impressive? I think so!
On the other hand, there exists a minority group who is totally against Anna like Arundhati Roy, for example. In her article "I'd Rather Not Be Anna" today on The Hindu, she mentions "He does however support Raj Thackeray's Marathi Manoos xenophobia and has praised the ‘development model' of Gujarat's Chief Minister who oversaw the 2002 pogrom against Muslims. (Anna withdrew that statement after a public outcry, but presumably not his admiration.)". Now anyone who supports such shady politicians usually gets my thumbs-down. But here too I would like to give Anna the benefit of the doubt, because as said by many people out there -- it's not who he supports that we should look into, but rather what he's doing for our country to end corruption.
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Monday, August 08, 2011
In this video, the guy talks about how he's considered as the good son when he takes care of his parent's wishes. He's considered as a good brother, if he takes care of his sister's or brother's needs. But why is he considered as a Jhoru Ka Ghulam when he takes care of his wife's needs?
'Diya aur bati hum' has released two more interesting promos -
What's your take on being a Jhoru Ka Ghulam and do you think it is given more importance than necessary?
Saturday, August 06, 2011
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?" "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee.
The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked. "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? " Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean?
The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
Count your blessings...not your problems. The problem is not the problem. The problem exists in your attitude about the problem."
Wednesday, August 03, 2011
I'm absolutely loving my work! I mean, I am doing something which is my passion and I'm also gaining exposure to new fantabulous technology. This is the first time I ever had a go-to meeting online with people in Kolkata who taught me about our software products and I could see every single thing they were doing on their PC sitting at my work desk in Kerala. What's the need for traveling half across the globe for a meeting, when you can do just this -- have a group meeting online where you can talk, see and put your point across via presentations?
I'm also absolutely loving my colleagues! Most of us are always a bit wary when we interact with our managers or seniors. My first job had me reporting to one of the friendliest bosses ever. He was the one who gifted me - "Tuesdays with Morrie" - a book which still remains a favorite. At my second work place, managers were a lil bit serious and uninspiring (if I may use the word). My current job has me reporting to people in the U.S who have such amazing, inspiring personalities and such funky American accents (:D). Now I hope some of that accent would rub off on me soon with all the constant interaction. My colleagues are young, enthusiastic, and I can talk to them about books (I got Rashmi Bansal's latest book "I Have A Dream" after my manager's recommendation. It's about young entrepreneurs who have made a difference by doing business not entirely meant for personal profit alone.), food and everything under the Sun. I say "young" because now this is one aspect which is very difficult to find in gulf work places. If you are 26 years old (a la yours truly), you might as well be the youngest person who has joined the office! Yes, that's how rare it is to find a young working Indian professional in the gulf.
Most of you might already be knowing I'm into online marketing. This is something which I'm still doing btw, but not as much as before. 9-6 is dedicated to my day job, and then onwards I start doing my little projects and assignments for my online clients. Nice little passive income, and the best part is I have already done so much of work for the past 2 years that it isn't even necessary for me anymore to spend a lot of time on it. I can concentrate on my day job and at the same time this sweet side-business does its work on its own. That's the beauty of affiliate marketing -- you can choose to take a break from it whenever you want and still keep earning from it without lifting a finger.
I was recently working on one of my sites, and this is the captcha that came on screen - "Megapoop" - and that too when I was enjoying my bar of Bournville (with raisins and nuts FYI:P).
Recently this junior from school came online on Facebook chat and this is how the conversation went -
Him - Is that your kid on your profile picture?
Me - No! That's my nephew.
Him - Sorry, thought it was your kid :)
Me - No problem :)
Him - When are you going to have your own?
Me - Dunno. When the time's right I guess...
Him - Oh! I see! So you want to practise with me before having one? *wink*
Me - *Silence*
Him - Hello? Waiting for an answer...
...And he kept pinging me for the next 5 minutes or so. Now since I'm not exceptionally good at mouthing bad words to strangers, I logged off. This guy is like 4 years younger than me and he knows I'm married. WTF was he thinking? I know at this day and age, it is very common to see married people in an "open relationship", but for heaven's sake I'm not one of those desperate people. This incident gave me a 'blerrgghh' kind of feeling. Dunno how to define it. But yeah, if you are on my friends list and you are a reader of my blog too, now you know what irritates me to the core -- flirting with me knowing that I'm married!
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Presenting the video -
That's all for now. Signing Off :)
Monday, July 18, 2011
Monday, July 04, 2011
3. How To Mess Up In Love
4. Arranged Marriage
P.S - If you have the time, don't forget to check out my article on the Viewspaper here. I'm thrilled by the response it got. 74 people have shared it so far! :) :) The Viewspaper is a leading online magazine recognised as India's youth voice by channels like NDTV, ET Now, IMF and Mint.
Monday, June 13, 2011
Agreed that continental breakfasts are not so heavy, but in a typical one you will see at least one non-veg item -- eggs, salami, bacon or sausage. But instead you just get this -
When I saw this plate, I was wondering where the rest of my breakfast is. I waited for full five minutes thinking that soon enough they will bring the rest of the items, but alas the food never came! My relatives had already started digging into their appams and veg stew. They looked at my plate and gave me a sympathetic look. "Always order South Indian food at South Indian restaurants" is their motto. Alas, the last thing I want to eat from outside are food items which I keep eating regularly at home. At least eat something different when you go outside, no?
Mom (grinning after seeing my plate) - "You mean, this is continental food? From which continent exactly -- one that is deprived of food? :D"
Needless to say I was highly unsatisfied with the end product so ordered a plate of scrambled eggs to go along with my "continental breakfast". The Indianized version of scrambled eggs involves the use of turmeric powder, onions, tomatoes, green chillies and what not. The scrambled eggs that I ordered came plain, and needless to say my relatives weren't impressed with them either.
"Such a dull color. They haven't even put turmeric!"
"No onions? So plain looking. No chillies and tomotoes either. Not colorful like how we make."
Now I wouldn't want them complaining about my scrambled eggs either so I mouthed a spoonful and said, "But I prefer them this way!". My mom nowadays doesn't think twice before smirking at me - "Today I have made special continental breakfast for you".
Moral of story? Where there's a continental breakfast, there might not always be taste-bud tickling items. Next time, I will just order appam and stew. Hmmph.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
N - Then get a PS3!
AF - Haha.. you are so smart dude... just like gundi!
N - Hahaha Gundi?
AF - Yeah, Gundi is smart no?
N - Dude! It's Gandi not Gundi!
Monday, May 09, 2011
“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,
but to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain,
but for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not look for allies in life’s battlefield,
but to my own strength.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved,
but hope for the patience to win my freedom.
Grant that I may not be a coward,
feeling Your mercy in my success alone;
But let me find the grasp of Your hand in my failure.”
Thursday, May 05, 2011
A : Wassup?
Me : I'm so cranky... I feel drugged ! Stupid antibiotics !
A : Why antibiotics?
Me : Cyst na...
A : CYST !!! :O You're dying ? :O :D
Me - .... So you see it's like I wake up with my shirt wet with blood and pus (yes, cysts can be gross) and it's so disgusting and annoying you know...
G - Yeah totally man! I understand your situation! It's like you wake up n you go - "Wow so much ketchup n mayo man !" Yeah totally I understand your situation !
Sunday, May 01, 2011
Stay tuned for more updates!
Sunday, March 27, 2011
… Felt stifled by what’s going around you?
… Ever had the feeling that everything is going wrong from day one?
Somehow you always tend to get hints but you never acknowledge them. You just turn a blind eye towards it and then all of a sudden it’s just there – magnified – for you to see and you just can’t seem to ignore it anymore. What do you do then? You try to rectify it of course. You tell openly that “Ok! Something is wrong here! And I need to do something about it.” Sometimes by addressing the problem openly, it tends to get solved. But other times, the problem just refuses to die its death. You fight hard to face it, make the problem go away, maybe even plead a little for it not to show its ugly head again. What if the problem is too stubborn and strong-headed that it just refuses to budge? That’s when reality hits you on the face. And you just stare back at life - not surprised, not shocked, but with a little compassion somewhere for the things that had gone far beyond your control. You weep a little thinking how things could have been - how things SHOULD have been. But if the problem is too adamant, what can you do other than let your destiny take its own course.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again....
You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul!
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman.
- Helen Reddy
Sunday, March 13, 2011
My sister was sick with Pneumonia and was put up in ICU one week back or so. I had to handle her kids, and even if I was just learning, I loved every single moment of taking care of my 1 year old nephew. Just his smile was enough to make me forget all my worries. It's a wonder how we smile at the silliest of things when we are small, but then later on forget to smile even at the funniest of situations. Sometimes with a kid, you end up feeling like a kid yourself and there have been moments when I wished I could pack up little Yadhu and take him back to my place. Apart from that, I guess I was not able to carry out all what a mother can do for her child -- and I wasn't surprised when my sister started craving for our parent's TLC. Our mom and dad rushed to her side the moment they heard she wanted them. Nothing like unconditional love right? I felt sad my sister was sick but my happiness knew no bounds when I heard my parents were coming. A mixed bag of emotions, you can say.
It has been a rollercoaster ride this month around in terms of emotions. But the silver lining in the tunnel is that my parents are around to look at my sister and I, smile and say "Everything will be okay soon!" whenever we are stressed out. Having my parents around makes me feel carefree again in a way. Having them around makes me feel protected, wanted and loved. With them around, it somehow feels like home sweet home again...
Saturday, February 19, 2011
1. Yes, Life does Change! - Whether you like it or not, life changes big time after marriage. You don't really get time to do things you like -- or maybe you can if you squeeze out enough time in between all the chores. But then again, you feel too exhausted by the end of the day to enjoy these things that you feel so passionate about! I'm working from home and at the same time I have to do my everyday chores which doesn't leave me with much time for my hobbies like reading. I have yet to finish 'The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari' which I had brought along with me to Dubai from India. 3 months and yet to finish a book? That's new for me! Nidhi told me that there are maids in the house to help her mom out with work. This hasn't stopped the lady from supervising everything and anything that happens in the house. The bottomline is that even with help around the house, married women hardly get time to do the things that they once upon a time used to love. Didn't exactly like this fact? Truth hurts afterall!
2. Men are Tuned to Rest After Work - Most men love to return from work and relax in front of the big tube. Once upon a time, I used to daydream that I and my husband would be cooking together and doing all chores together (every women has that dream I guess and I can see the men reading this guffaw out there :) but then you have to get used to the fact that such men hardly exist!
3. Start Learning! - Girls who know next to nothing about cooking or cleaning up or washing or just about any household work -- should start learning! More so because you have to be prepared for questions like - "So what did you cook today" from almost everyone. And you don't want to give a bad impression by replying - "Umm. Noodles!". Btw, noodles are so easy to make no? I would have made noodles everyday -- but my husband hates it! Which brings me to the next point....
4. Most Husbands Hate Easy Recipes - I have lost count of the number of men who have said "Yuck! I hate bread" or "I hate noodles"! So if you think you can escape by making such easy things, you cannot be more wrong! I had a number of such "easy meals" planned out before marriage, but now you will find that list shredded away into teeny weeny pieces somewhere in the garbage bin.
5. Sometimes It's Better to Agree with Your Husband Even if You're Right - We women are always right no? I can see all the girls nodding :D But sometimes our partner refuses to acknowledge that. So what do you do then? You just nod along and agree to everything he says and let him learn from his own mistakes.
6. Your Husband Most Probably Will Get Really Emotional When Sick - I have yet to see a guy who doesn't whine when sick. My dad gets very irritated and sad when he's ill. My husband does too. At times, you wonder if they are actually going to die from a cold or fever. No, really! The point is that you girls shouldn't feel too overwhelmed when you end up seeing your "macho man" putting his guard down when sick. It's normal! As long as you give enough care and attention, this phase too shall pass smoothly.
7. The First Thing in the Morning You Might Hear from Him Will Be 'Chai Please' - Men usually are a hungry and thirsty lot. You can't blame them if that's the first thing that comes to their mind when they wake up. :D
These are only some of the points that you girls should keep in mind. I will come up with more once I complete my first year of marriage (.. just to be safe :D).
On a serious note, I come to know every other day about how couples are getting divorced without even completing a year together. The first year of marriage can be VERY difficult maybe coz both of you have certain expectations in mind for each other. We are all looking for THE perfect partner who does everything according to your wish. There's nothing like a perfect partner at first but with time by compromising and making little adjustments you can make your marriage just perfect!
Why do YOU think so many marriages are breaking down nowadays? The older generation won't even hear of such a thing! Usually back then, the women folk used to remain quiet while the husbands made all the important decisions. Nowadays the girls are outspoken and openly pinpoint what they feel about things -- and not all guys (with the notable "male ego") can take it. Is THAT a reason? Can education be blamed for making girls so independent and less tolerant nowadays? Is it wrong for girls to be considered "equal" to men when our Indian society is not yet ready to believe that times have changed? Or is our society or culture to be blamed for bringing up guys with so much of importance -- which is maybe why they feel irritated when a woman dominates them? Share your thoughts. Would love to know :)
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Yeah I know it's coming a wee bit late -- but still -- A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR to all my blog readers !!! :) I can't believe this is my sixth year into blogging and though not as frequent as before, I itch to blog after every few other weeks. So no matter how busy I am, I always look forward to adding another page into my personal online diary. Why? Just so that I can run through the pages several years from now and fondly reminisce about everything wonderful and not-so-wonderful that happened to me over the years. Something priceless -- you've to agree.
2011 didn't start on a great note for R and I -- coz we both got sick and bedridden for a week or so. And then there were some things which we expected, but didn't quite work out the way we wanted. On a good note, my e-marketing payment is at a whole-time high this month. Last month around, I sold off $1000 worth of Amazon products. Coolness no? I'm sure it has something to do with the holiday season -- but the bout of success is something I'm enjoying thoroughly at the moment. Apart from that, I felt for the first time in my life - a minor earthquake. It was so minor, I'm sure hardly anyone would have noticed it. But it was an 'earthquake' after all. I mistook the tremor for a 'strong wind' when the windows trembled for a few seconds. Some others were complaining about how 2011 has been crappy so far for them. How's it going for you?
Anyway , this month has me celebrating one year of something very special (and thankfully, something not-crappy :D). I and R met on this very month last year. Haven't you read 'How I Met The Nair Boy' yet? How time flies! The difference being now I am more comfortable with him than I ever used to be. I mean, I can just walk around in my pyjamas wearing my spectacles, without combing my hair looking like crap -- and there he is, always ready to give me a quick hug and a kiss. Last year, he never got to see me looking like a witch. Nowadays he does. Aaah! The freedom of being married :D
I do not mean that the 1 year of us knowing each other has been all mushy mushy. Far from it actually! There had been loads of incidents when we literally wanted to shoot each other down if possible. The problem is we both are kids at heart who whine and cry if we don't get what we are seeking. But hopefully we'll both mature out of that one day! :)
Oh btw, the heart-shaped dosa is what I prepared few days back for him. Not bad for a first attempt no? :D